Chika Ike Confirms "Am Seperated And Am Working On My Divorce"

Nollywood actress Chika Ike talks about her marriage and moving on.read more after the cut....

Marriage & Moving On
I understand this is a sensitive topic but could we talk about your marriage.
How long were you married for?

I was married for about five years.
The end of your marriage brought up a lot of speculation with people
insinuating different reasons in the media but up till date you haven’t really
come out to say what went wrong. Why are you quiet about it?
I’m a very private person and I keep my private issues to myself. As an
actress, there are some things I don’t want to let out. My marriage is a very
sensitive topic and I don’t really like to speak about what I went through.
The major rumored reason was domestic violence and this is something a lot
of women face in their marriages. A popular blogger once advised that you
tell your story so that other women can learn from your experience.
Maybe when the right time comes, I’d talk about it. There is something I’ve
been avoiding saying but I’d tell you. I’m separated and I’m working on my
divorce and very soon I’d get a divorce. Even if it’s so hard to believe, I’ve
decided to let bygones be bygones and move on without him in my life.
Both of us are still on talking terms and I’ve also learnt to forgive him.
Maybe when I’m done with my divorce, I would be able to talk about it. I’m
going through a lot of emotions right now and it’s still very fresh.

I quite understand. Do you think getting married at a young age was a
disadvantage or had anything to do with the way it ended?

I think it has to do with so many reasons, one of them might be being
young. Some people get married that young and have been able to make
their marriages work. But if you’re young, you’re young. There are some
things you’ve not experienced. You might not be able to stay calm when
you’re supposed to stay calm, understand when you’re supposed to
understand or leave what you’re supposed to leave. Also, I think these days,
a lot of people are not happy in their marriages. I have a lot of friends who
would have left their marriages but because of the African society, their in-
laws, what people will say or other factors, they stay. We’ve heard of a lot of
deaths caused by bad marriages and before the death, there would have
been signs, things that have been happening leading up to that. I think it has
to do with age and so many other things like compatibility and not being true
to yourself in the marriage. Everybody has a limit. There are some things in
marriage that you might not be able to stand. Some people’s limit might not
be my limit; my limit might be somebody’s starting point.

Have you moved on and are you willing to try again?

I’ve moved on but marriage right now is not at the top of my list. I’m still
trying to get myself together. I don’t want to make the same mistake twice.
I have to understand the person I’m going to be with.